Children of alcoholics?
Over the past few years my parents have been drinking alot at home 3-4 martinis a night. My dad is so drunk he's passed out in his chair. My mom takes meds for depression, thyroid and high bllod pressure. I am getting married next fall and I really think they need to know it's time, and there is a problem. Alot of my family members have noticed this and given me advice on how to get the ball rolling, but they aren't me and they can't possibly know what it is like. I don't want my parents to be angry at me but they need help. Anyone who has been in this boat, please give me any advice you can. I am desperate to get my parents back.
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- This is where tough love role is reversed from child to parent. I had to tell my mother that if she wanted to be a part of her grandchildrens lives, there would be no alcohol involved. I stood my ground and it worked after a time. You need to tell them that them being a part of your wedding is very important but you choose to start your new life with them sober and they have to make a choice to be part of it. If you don't stick by it, they will continue their behavior. They may choose to continue it but you will know that you are not enableing them.
- Unfortunatly there is no way to bring this to light without some anger and hurt feelings. Speaking as a child of 2 parents that prob averaged better than a case of beer a day. Tough love falls on your sholders and it sucks because there is no easy way to do it. The reality is that the longer you wait the harder its going to get to deal with it because the longer it goes on unchecked the stonger the hold the desies takes on them. In this situation essentually you become the parent its up to you to set the rules and cosequenses and stand your grownd. there going to get mad and may even get hurt a little in the process but you cant let that deture you from the bigger picture. useing your wedding as a goal for them might be a very good idea bit you cant exspect an oner night change because it wont happen set your goals anbd stand your ground they will love you for it in the long run no matter what they say in the corse of getting sober.
hope it helps a little
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